Hello, my name is Tom and I’m an intern for TripLinks. A bit about me – I graduated in physics from the University of Warwick last year, I’m originally from Wales and I always like to keep a few magic tricks up my sleeves… literally! I am looking forward to meeting you all through TripLinks.
Yesterday I was sat in Burger King waiting for my train back home. I had a Texas BBQ sandwich with fries and a drink – all seems normal. However, there was an uncomfortable gap between the stool and table, so each time I leant over to take a bite it became a battle to stay on the stool. Of course a successful connection from mouth to food was formed and I consumed the entire meal rather happily.
Making the first steps can be hard. It’s the beginning of bridging a gap over the unknown, with only a potential goal in sight.
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are” - Unknown
Admittedly eating at Burger King isn’t particularly difficult. The worst that could’ve happened is slipping off the stool or having my food land on me, which is at the most just slightly annoying. Making the first step isn’t too much to look at here.
However, there are plenty of examples where making the first steps can be hard. It could be meeting someone new for the first time and wanting to make a good impression; it could be a trek that you’ve set yourself up to do and you’re finally starting it; or it could even be that dream you’ve had in mind for years and you just haven’t got round to it… yet.
Depending upon the scenario, the start of a new experience will be easier or harder for others. Some may feel like they’re safely walking across a sturdy suspension bridge with nothing to worry about, whilst others may have to dread of walking across a tightrope. We all come from different walks of life, so what makes those first few steps so hard? Once we get started, it all seems fine, so what is it that prevents us from getting out that door and taking the plunge?
The biggest problem I find is that constant uncertainty. You’re launching yourself into that unknown breaking that habit of feeling safe with what you already know. Regardless if you have a goal in mind or not, there will always be these unexpected twists and bumps throughout life. If there’s a target to achieve, then there may be a long road ahead of you or not, and you’ll never know if you never try.
“Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Tiptoe if you must, but take the step” – Naeem Callaway
It may be that fear of being judged by others, but so what? Just stay focused on what you want and not on what others want you to become. If you don’t think you’re good enough at something in particular and that prevents you from achieving your goal, then you never will be without starting and pushing yourself into that deep end of uncertainty.
One other major difficulty of making that first step, could be a lack of motivation. You want to get fit, but you just don’t seem to have the time, or you want to quit a bad habit, but can’t resist the urge for “just one more”. The problem lies in looking for a reason to be motivated, and not being disciplined with yourself. The number of times I’ve tried to start an exercise routine is ridiculous, but I’m sure I’ll get there eventually! Perhaps you don’t actually want to do whatever it is you set out to do, so it may be a good time to reflect on what you truly want. Although, I often find that if I’ve been given opportunity, I’ll force myself to take it and make the most of it, and in the end I’m rather glad I did it. It’s just that self-discipline.
“The first step is the hardest – making a commitment to yourself, for yourself” – Mary Kay Ash
The best way to start is to see what’s on the other side and keep your focus on that. The grass may be greener and regardless of what your “bridge” may look like, just think why you want to get there and the benefits that will come flowing after. If you don’t start, you’ll never get that better view of what to really expect and if it really is the path that you want to tread down. Just be self-disciplined, determined with a bit of stubbornness and that belief in yourself.
Speaking of first steps, this is my first blog post for TripLinks, so be sure to look out for me in the upcoming weeks!